Warning: Putting too much pressure on a man will not turn him into your man, it will turn him into a punk as$ bitch! Have you ever noticed how quick a
As a child it is taught to females to be gentle, to be loving, and to show feelings and emotions while males are taught to be rough, be tough, and show no signs of weakness or emotion. ("You bet not cry boy or imma bust ya in ya chest!") Therefore, we can not fault a man for not knowing what to do with his feelings for a woman especially when she has the capability to make him weak in the knees, have a soft heart for her, and show emotions (all the things he was taught not to do). Women happen to know what they want out of a relationship before a man can decide what he is going to eat for breakfast 'cause we test our waters more often than men when it comes to relationships. Our hearts have been broken time and time again and we manage to pick up enough pieces to carelessly love the next man. We have been lead down many misleading paths of love only to find that it was a dead end that lead to nowhere... but we washed our eyes with a few tears to see clearly the direction we need to go to get back to "I CAN'T STAND MEN AVENUE." For men, dealing with heartache is not as easy. When a man is hurt for the first time, he is destroyed, causing him to build a wall so thick around his heart it will take a few years of hammering by different women to successfully knock it down. His first heartbreak will cause him to run from commitment and you when you even think about pressuring him to commit.
The saying is "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus," meaning that we are from two different planets and see almost everythig with different views. We are almost NEVER on the same page because wome tend to read the entire book while men are still reading the index page. We must learn as women to be patient with men and understand they have a different mentality when it comes to down to relationships. When you put pressure on a relationship that is not quite ready, you are setting yourself up for failure. Women need to let the man control the pace of a relationship in order for him to feel comfortable enough to let his guard down with us. Do not ruin a good thing because you are impatient and feel the need to speed things up by putting a title on things, just make sure you play you role and play it well. If you really want him to commit to you, don't play girlfriend if you are NOT his girlfriend. Don't be so available to him like you would be if you were his girlfriend. Let him see what it is like without you being around as much, get MIA on his ass. Make him sense that another man COULD be a threat. They key is to MAKE him want you to be his girlfriend by not being his girlfriend. Men like a challenge and they also like to chase...but not so much he runs out of breath. Make him feel like he has you at his finger tips but definitely not in his palms. Give him a little but make him give you a lot (sexually, financially, however you play your game). He will finally feel a NEED to make you his girlfried and will be asking you "What are we?... Are we just talking or are we together yet?....Where is this relationship going?... Are we exclusive? If he doesn't.... HE' JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU! BITCH GIVE UP!!!!! (I'm sorry).
I'm baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack! :) Excuse the font.. I effed some ish up and don't feel like fixing it.. YOU CAN STILL READ The shit.. Have a great day! :)
