R.Kelly said it best, "when a woman's fed up, there ain't nothing you can do about it!" Have you ever been so head over heels for a guy that you let him get away with everything, no matter how bad it makes you hurt inside? You keep letting him get away with his obvious lies because you have faith that he will (one day) change. When will you ladies learn that Ni99as ain't shit and they will do to you what you allow them to do to?
It takes a woman to get dogged all the way out before she finally says "I'm done!" Why must this be the process to let go of a not good for shit dude? I'm sure he showed you signs in the beginning of your relationship that he wasn't shit, but you was too stupid to notice them. Let me give you examples:
1. He doesn't make you a priority, you are his last minute plan, but you are fooled because you are just happy to get a second of his time, even if its after 1am. NOT ACCEPTABLE! Cut him off until he makes an effort to put you at the top of his list of things to do! Wait, not "to do" but you know what I mean.The list could go on but you get the point! You are landing yourself a full time side chick position. If you want to be his girl, you need act like you are worth it, if not, shall you forever hold your peace and continue to wait your turn for his attention instead of wasting your time waiting for a change in him. The only way you can change A MAN is to change THE MAN! Stop sticking around until you just can't bare his antics anymore, you can save time and find a worthy man with all the time you waste on a guy who actively shows you he ain't shit.
2. He is only reachable when he wants to be reachable, meaning he disappears and has every excuse under the sun of why his phone was off. "Baby, I was in the studio, my phone died, I left my phone, my phone broke, my phone was on silent, etc." These excuses can be true, but if it happens consistently at 3pm everyday, you need to CUT HIM OFF until he learns to be more available to you and stop feeding you with bullshit ass excuses.
3. You never go to his house, but he always welcome to yours. Why is that acceptable? You make it okay because you "prefer" to be in the comfort of "your" home when you know down deep you really want to see how he is living or better yet, WHO is living with him. You need to go at least once just to know. If he refuses you to see where he lives, you need to refuse any other contact with him because he is hiding something. CUT HIM OFF!
Now for the fellas, sometimes you tend to bite off more than you can chew, let me explain. You find a girl that you are initially interested in, she does everything you want a woman to do, but its just not challenging enough. You then drift off and become less interested and treat her any kind of way because you know that she will always be there. Once she finally comes to her senses and kicks you to the curb, you then realize a lil too late that you just eff'd up something that could have been great. Now you want to do all the things that she has always been asking you to do...(Spend time and give her attention) but now she ain't hearing none of that! My advice to you is you can try your hand but she will always have some type of resentment toward you and she will never be the same toward you because you played around with her time and heart when she was nothing but good to you. To avoid this, be straight up with her, tell her you're not ready for a relationship but when you are, you will let her know. A lot of you men think a woman can't handle the turth but in honesty, MEN CAN'T! The truth eats more at a man that it does a woman. The truth may upset a woman but she will not resent you. You can play around with the chicken heads all day and night, but not the one you see being THE ONE for you, "cause when a woman's fed up, there aint nothing you can do about it!"
I've included my favorite lyrics from the song that basically say what I just said but in a R.Kelly artistic flow lol :)
You can cry a riverClick the link to download the song!
'Till an ocean starts to form, yeah
But she will always remember
Cuz she's a woman scorned
And if you ever get her back
It will never be the same
She's cuttin' the corners of her eyes
Every time she see your face
Now your trust is out the door
She don't want you no more
You used to tell your boys, not me
And she would always be there for you
If you had took the time to see
What that woman meant to you
Is what the mirror said to me
When A Woman's Fed Up (Radio Version)
4 comments:
YOU MAKE A LOT OF VALID POINTS ON BOTH SIDES. IN A NUTT SHELL. MOST WOMEN WANT A MAN THAT HER COMPETITION (OTHER WOMEN) FEELS IS A GOOD CATCH. MOST MEN WANT THE SAME. LUST ATTRACTS LUST. ONLY DIFFERENCE IS WOMEN USUALLY CATCH FEELINGS WHILE IT LASTS, AND THE MEN CATCH FEELINGS WHEN ITS OVER. THATS THE REASON WOMEN STRESS TO MAKE IT WORK AND MEN STRESS TO GET IT BACK. PERIOD. BUT BOTH PARTIES HAD BAD JUDGMENT FROM THE JUMP IN MOST CASES.
PEOPLE DONT GET INVOLVED FOR THE LOVE ANYMORE. IF MORE WOMEN LOOKED FOR THE BETTER TRAITS IN A MAN, THEY'D HAVE BETTER QUALITY IN MEN. BUT LETS BE REAL. MOST WOMEN WOULD RATHER SEE THEIR MAN ICED OUT, POPPIN BOTTLES AND RIDING THIN TIRES THAN SITTING IN SOMEBODYS CHURCH, GETTING SAVED, AND ENJOYING THE SIMPLE LIFE. THATS NOT WHAT WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR, SO THEY GET WHAT THEY ASK FOR.
MEN ARE LOOKING FOR THE BADDEST CHICK W/ SOME TYPE OF HUMBLE NATURE. WTF? HOW DOES THAT WORK? THE BADDEST CHICKS ARE USUALLY PUFFED UP WITH THE MOST PRIDE AND LOOK DOWN ON MANY OTHER FEMALES WHO ARENT AS PHYSICALLY OR FINANCIALLY BLESSED AS THEY ARE..BUT NIGGAS LOVE IT B/C THEY LIKE THE CHALLENGE OF OBTAINING WHAT TO MANY IS THE UNOBTAINABLE. IT AINT ABOUT LOVE. HE JUST WANTS TO CONQUER. THATS HIS MISSION. AND WHEN HE DOES, AND SHE GETS SOFT TOWARDS HIM, GIVING HIM HIS WAY AND RUNNING BEHIND HIM, THERE'S NO MORE CHALLENGE IN IT FOR HIM. THE THRILL IS GONE AND SO HE GOES BACK ON THE HUNT. ONLY REASON A LOT OF NIGGAS GO TO CALLING HER AND TRYNA GET HER BACK WHEN THEY SEE SHE'S MOVING ON IS B/C ALTHOUGH HE "REALLY" DONT CARE LIKE THAT, A MAN LOVES TO BE IN CONTROL OF THE SITUATION AS A WHOLE..IF SHE GAVE HIM HER BODY, HE LIKES TO KEEP IT WITHIN ARMS REACH. ITS AN EGO THING. AND IF HE FEEL LIKE ANOTHER NIGGA IS BOUT TO BE KNOCKING THAT, HE FEELS LIKE HE'S LOSING CONTROL OF SOMEONE HE HAD ON A STRING MEANING HE'S LOSING HIS INSURANCE POLICY AKA FALL BACK PLAN AKA MIDNIGHT CREEP AKA SIDECHICK. SIMPLE.
MEN KNOW WHO TO PULL WHAT ON AS DO WOMEN. ITS BASICALLY A CATCH 22 AND A "YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT" TYPE DEAL.
IM NOT SAYING THIS IS HOW IT IS FOR EVER SINGLE MAN AND WOMAN AND THEIR STATE OF MIND BUT FOR THE MAJORITY THEY END UP HURT, SEPERATED, DIVORCED B/C THEIR RELATIONSHIPS ARE BUILT ON LUSTS.
That's because you're dating wack ass rappers. "I was in the studio". Ha!
TRUTH!! Love that R Kelly song
Great post, we can't forget that men also dog out women who that are on the top of their call list. that they take care and provide for. I was in that circumstance. I was number one but the issue was he had number 2, 3 and four. HA
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